Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 20

 But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of the faith..  1Timothy 6:11,12

           As a man, and this passage starts out "man of God" so I'm safe in making it gender specific, I find my worth in making a living or pursuing money. When it gets really out of hand, I'm pursuing wealth which is the abundance of money. This passage straightens me out and tells me what I should be pursuing, or it could be titled "What defines success for the Christian man?"

     First off I would say personal holiness that pleases God (vertically) and the world notices (horizontally). At my new job in Memphis, I was amazed that before people even knew me, they would cuss in front of me and then apologize. One nurse made friendship bracelets and she gave me one that said WWJD. My only explanation is that somehow they saw Jesus in me and I count that as success.

      After righteousness (vertical) and Godliness(horizontal) comes faith. A successful man doesn't always have everything going his way, but he doesn't let it depress or discourage him because he knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is a God over it all, above it all, sovereign over it all, and that God loves him and is using it in his life for good.

     Third mark of a successful man is there is love in his life. He has a great marriage with a loving wife and kids who love him and vice versa. Not only that but he is known for his love for mankind specifically the downtrodden. Since I'm writing this around Christmas, the opposite of this was Ebeneezer scrooge who had everything this world had to offer but no love, making him anything but a success.

     Fourth is endurance. A successful man is disciplined. He doesn't get tired out and stop doing quiet times, have a mid-life crisis, suffer burn out, or defect from the faith. He doesn't give up on marriage, the church, etc. but endures and perseveres till the very end. As an old man, the younger ones can look to him as a stalwart of the faith and be encouraged.

     Lastly a successful man is gentle and kind. He should be approachable and have time for anybody. He should not be known as a grouchy keep off my grass kind of guy but rather one that realizes that he is in need of grace as much as the next person. Everything he owns and has accumulated, he is actually managing it for the Master.

      Are you a success. Could people say to you, "George Bailey, the richest man in town"?

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 19

 But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.  1Timothy 6:6-10

          I recently read that the reason so many people are unhappy at work is because they chose a vocation based on how much money they would make rather than what their passion is. Many times your passion will meet your financial needs but not a whole lot of excess. This is particularly true in the case of going into the ministry like Paul and Timothy. Is our passion bringing as many people as we can to saving knowledge of Christ? If it is, then once we have our basic needs met, the remainder of our resources should go into ministries that are advancing the kingdom.

     Why do we put all our effort into accumulating wealth rather than giving it away? The older I get, the more inheritance fights I see. Better to leave nothing. As I work part time in semi retirement, 10 days a month, 6 hours from home when my financial planner says we have enough saved to meet our needs the rest of our lives, I've got to make sure that the main reason I am here is to represent Christ to a whole new audience. If my primary focus is to make money to spend on pleasure, Paul would say, like the widow in chapter 5, I'm dead while I'm living. I'm like the dead vine or tree that stopped bearing fruit. I might as well be done here on Earth. And this is the danger of money - it gets you living for the wrong kingdom.

        Isn't it interesting this common theme in 1 Timothy - What kingdom are you living for? Are you storing up treasure on Earth or treasure in Heaven?

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 18

 These are the things you are to teach and insist on. If anyone teaches otherwise and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, they are conceited and understand nothing. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions and constant friction between people of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain. 1Tim. 6:3-5

     In our current environment of "likes" or "followers" or subscriptions = success or popularity or even value, it's not surprising that this has made it into pastoral ministry. Since I spend a good deal of time on Twitter, I get pretty good glimpses of this passage in 1Timothy 6 being played out.

     First of all there is the reformed group. I block every one of them. All they want to do is argue and show how intelligent they are and every system of theology other than theirs is wrong. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words.

      Then there are the prosperity name it claim it teachers who this passage is literally talking about. They think that Godliness is a means to financial gain.

       Then there are the politically right Christian activists who think Trump is God's right hand man. They also have a group of prophets that they listen to. They have conspiracy theories of Deep State and if there is anyone that stirs up strife, malicious talk and evil suspicions and constant friction, this is the group.

       Just ignore these people. Don't give them a platform or even waste your time arguing. Remember, God's servant doesn't quarrel. When you are looking for a pastor, try to find a humble one. It all starts there.

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 17

 All who are under the yoke of slavery should consider their masters worthy of full respect, so that God’s name and our teaching may not be slandered. Those who have believing masters should not show them disrespect just because they are fellow believers. Instead, they should serve them even better because their masters are dear to them as fellow believers and are devoted to the welfare of their slaves. 1Tim. 6:1-3

        I try to put myself in the servant mindset of the first century and here are the issues or emotions that I think I would have.

   1. Inferiority - Being a servant would be very humbling. Often it was saying, "I'm broke; I'm bankrupt and need help." I would have to place myself under someone saying that they are empirically better than me. As a doctor that would be tough for me because society elevates our value. As a Christian, though, where is our inherent value found? Is it not in our adoption into children of the King? In the kingdom of God, we have as much value as the slave owner and can't be gaslit into thinking we are lesser but in order to maintain dignity we must remember that this world is the "matrix", and reality exists in the Kingdom of God.

      If you have a menial job and you feel inferior and it's affecting your self- worth, your eyes are fixed on the wrong kingdom.

   2. Lack of freedom - As a servant you cannot come and go as you please. Your decisions are not autonomous but made for you. Your only answer is "Yes sir." We live in a country, USA, that was founded on rebellion against authority and it's ingrained in all of us. This would be hard for me. I often spiritualize my decision not to be absorbed by a medical conglomerate but to remain independent, as, "I can't have anyone telling me that I can't pray with patients or share Jesus with them. I must be independent!" Actually though, how much of it deep down is that I don't want people telling me what to do; I want to be free.

        Christians are actually slaves to Christ. We have voluntarily given up our rights and freedom. In exchange He has given us immense freedom to love because He loved us first. If you find yourself in a job where you feel like you have no freedom, just remember that your real boss says that the only freedom that really matters if freedom to love.

    3. Dependent - This point intermingles with 1 and 2 but as a servant you become dependent on someone else for your next meal, your clothes, your shelter - basically all your needs. Any self-sufficiency is gone. We take pride in making it on our own and not needing help from anyone. "I'm too proud to beg!", we say. Actually in the Kingdom of God mindset we realize that we are dependent on God for our next breath and heartbeat. Our salvation depends entirely on His grace and mercy for it. If there is any spiritual mindset of self-sufficiency, then we aren't saved.

     If you feel totally helpless and dependent on your paycheck for your very next meal, just remember that your Father is taking care of you and He has "never forsaken the righteous or their seed begging for bread". "My God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory."

     Bottom line - if life has you feeling inferior, enslaved, totally dependent, you are focusing on the wrong world , the wrong kingdom, and the wrong boss.

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 16

  The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honor, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching. For Scripture says, “Do not muzzle an ox while it is treading out the grain,” and “The worker deserves his wages.”[Do not entertain an accusation against an elder unless it is brought by two or three witnesses. But those elders who are sinning you are to reprove before everyone, so that the others may take warning. I charge you, in the sight of God and Christ Jesus and the elect angels, to keep these instructions without partiality, and to do nothing out of favoritism Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, and do not share in the sins of others. Keep yourself pure. Stop drinking only water, and use a little wine because of your stomach and your frequent illnesses The sins of some are obvious, reaching the place of judgment ahead of them; the sins of others trail behind them. In the same way, good deeds are obvious, and even those that are not obvious cannot remain hidden forever.  1Tim.5:18-25

       A lot of people like to look back on their life and reminisce. Not me. Sure, I miss the years of our kids growing up, etc. but any part of it that looks back on me, I would just as soon not. Why? Frankly because it is embarrassing.  I thought I knew so much yet I knew so little. I thought I was wise but I was a fool. I thought I was humble yet I was so proud. There are incidents after incidents if I had to do over, I would and I look back and all I can say to myself is, "What an idiot you were."

      And yet, there I was at the formation of a fledgling church plant that in order to exist independently, had to have its quota of elders and deacons and I was ordained as an elder. This is what Paul is warning Timothy about - don't be hasty in making people elders and deacons just to fill a quota or because you need help; it's a mistake. Is a 30 year old mature enough to make decisions on hiring a pastor, building a church, settling disputes among members, dealing with alcoholic husbands, depression and burnout of pastor, budgets, hiring and firing of staff, church discipline along with talking to parents about their kids, and more? And it's not just being unprepared at that age that's the problem, it's the arrogance of youth that thinks you are or the naivety of youth not knowing that you aren't ready. I would comfort myself with the Morgan Freeman to Kevin Costner quote in Robin Hood, "there's no such thing as perfect people but there is such a thing as perfect motives."  Unfortunately, over the years I have learned that I can't even trust my motives.

       So what is Paul's teachings to pastors? 

1. You are worth every cent they are paying you because it's a tough job

2. It's better to be physically stressed than emotionally and inter-personally

3. People will come against you but God will protect you and your innocence or guilt will be clear

4. You will be held to a higher standard than anyone else. Make sure this is God's calling for your life

Thoughts From 1Timothy - Day 15

 Give proper recognition to those widows who are really in need. But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. The widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help. But the widow who lives for pleasure is dead even while she lives. Give the people these instructions, so that no one may be open to blame. Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. No widow may be put on the list of widows unless she is over sixty, has been faithful to her husband, and is well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the Lord’s people, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds. As for younger widows, do not put them on such a list. For when their sensual desires overcome their dedication to Christ, they want to marry. Thus, they bring judgment on themselves, because they have broken their first pledge. Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to. So, I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander. Some have in fact already turned away to follow Satan.  1Timothy 5:1-13

        Having spent a few years on the Board of a Rescue Ministry, I can relate a little better to a passage like this. I remember complaining about all the rules we had for helping people like -

no walk ins, you have to call and make an appointment

we can only help people once a year and with x amount of dollars

we give vouchers instead of money

a data bank was compiled between churches at Christmas to prevent going from place to place

don't give money to a beggar because they will probably spend it on alcohol or cigarettes

           These are just a few of the rules and they would drive me crazy because I just wanted to help everyone in need. In the long run, though, helping without limitations compounds the problem. For example, requiring an appointment taught certain life skills like waking up early to make a phone call at 9AM when the phone lines opened to grab a limited spot to punctually meet with the director who wouldn't see you if you were late. All these skills are required in life to get and maintain employment. Just helping them once a year for let's say paying rent taught them that paying living expenses is a priority and the necessity of budgeting, so they don't get evicted.

        In this passage we see that Paul, like the rescue ministry, had rules specifically in the area of helping widows. Remember in Acts 6, helping widows became a huge issue in the early church necessitating the formation of the office of deacon so the elders could focus on prayer and teaching instead of using all their time for mercy ministries. When handouts and help is available, unfortunately the potential and certainty of abuse of the system comes into play. Just like people going to multiple sources for Christmas presents, then returning them to Wal-Mart and using the money on scratch offs, it appeared some widows would use the assistance to indulge themselves. Instead of using it for basic needs it was used for drunkenness, etc. and Paul is saying, "Take those people off the list." (The origin of the naughty list)

        Another stipulation was that if widows had family members in the church, the family needed to help them. Paul wasn't concerned with widows only; he was concerned with the family's sanctification as the management of money is central to Christian growth. If "Christians" weren't helping the poor in their family but using all of "their" money on themselves, they needed church discipline at worst and friendly admonishing at least.

       Since resources were limited, like the Rescue ministry, priority needed to be given to those widows who had served the body faithfully. I don't think Paul is saying, "If you have lived a bad life, you don't get help", because that would go against Jesus' example that He came to help those who were undeserving, but rather to prioritize the limited funds and then the leftovers go to the rest.

        Lastly, Paul talks about younger widows not being put on the list. Why? Because they had other options for support like getting married or getting work and giving them handouts enabled laziness. The Rescue Ministry's motto was to teach people to "fish" not just give them "fish". The goal is self-sufficiency not idleness and dependency.

      People that have the gift of mercy aren't going to do well with passages like this while people with the gift of administration are going to like this passage too much. Both gifts are necessary in the body but it helps to know when Christ says in Luke 6, "Give to all who ask", it is OK to put a few qualifiers on that yet always err on the side of mercy because that is God's default mode and it should be ours, too.

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 14

 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to preaching and to teaching. Do not neglect your gift, which was given you through prophecy when the body of elders laid their hands on you. Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them, so that everyone may see your progress. Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers.Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.  1Tim.4:12-16, 5:1,2

       I recently had a great brother in the Lord filling in for me teaching life group. (Sunday School) When I asked him how it went, he thanked me for the opportunity and said, "The teacher learns more than the student." I can concur with him on that. Being thrust into a teaching position in college and medical school when I felt scared and totally unqualified, made me grow up in the faith. I am currently teaching 1 Timothy in Life Group and because of that, it is causing me to meditate on it and put my thoughts on this format even though I type with one finger.

      When we were recently in the Philippines, we ordained a 21 year old pastor because frankly, there was no one else.

 Paul must have felt the same way ordaining Timothy. He knew Timothy had the gifts and experience and was much more qualified than anyone in Ephesus, but yet he was SO young. Paul discusses some of the potential problems with having a young pastor.

     First of all, people would either discount what he says because of his age. I see this in medicine where doctors in training have idealistic views and standards coming out of training and when they vocalize them to me, I kind of have to chuckle and think, wait until they get out in the real world. A young preacher can teach from the Bible and be in danger of older people in the congregation discounting what he says because he hasn't been "around" yet. Also he is in danger of being bullied into compromise by older more powerful respected in the community parishioners. Paul tells Timothy, don't back down.

      Secondly, he is going to have to grow in knowledge on the job. This means that he is sometimes going to make mistakes and admit he was wrong. I remember teaching in my 20's that because of the fall we now have to work, and an older wiser person came up to me afterwards and pointed out that Adam worked prior to the fall and we would be working in Heaven and work is actually a good thing. This is a danger of having a young pastor.

    Third is keeping his life in order and pure. Young people haven't learned life skills completely like time management, saying no, social skills, managing finances, hygiene, etc. and must grow on the job into a mature adult but some of these things like money management or paying taxes could derail a young pastor quickly. He needs to have a mentor or group of people who he is submissive to help him in these areas. Don't assume a young pastor can manage his own life just because he is mature spiritually. Also a young pastor is going to have temptations that an older pastor wouldn't have. (although Steve Lawson is 73) Fortunately, Timothy didn't have video games to deal with or TikTok but at 68 years old, I would not be drawn away on account of these like my 21-year-old Filipino pastor might be.

    Fourth is confronting people who are older than you. I touched on this some with the first point but young pastors, if they come on too strong with people older than them are in danger of being ignored. It takes tact, that sometimes-immature people lack, to get people to take your advice. Paul says to exhort people as if they were your father. I guess if I was going to address my Dad on some behavior that isn't honoring God, I would probably start with honor him for all the times he has done exemplary things and then to tell him how the grandkids are watching and how he can set them an example of Godliness in this area. However the young pastor chooses to do it, it needs to be done with "kid gloves" because of the honor old people are due.

     Fifth, and I touched on it in point 3, he needs to be careful around young girls in the church. He needs to instruct them without being attracted to them. He needs to see them as his sisters and no one wants to be romantically involved with their sister, unless of course you are Commodus in Gladiator.

     Lastly, how does he treat the guys his age? As brothers. They are equal to him in the family of God, so he shouldn't come off as "I am better than you."He also shouldn't descend into bad behavior with his "bros", knowing that if they are his brothers, it would get back to Dad. Considering young men as his brothers should deter bad behavior.

    If you are in a position where you are choosing a pastor for your church, think and pray long and hard about selecting a pastor under say 35. I would say the risks outweigh the benefits. That being said, I know some young pastors in our area that are killing it. If you choose a young pastor, get him a life coach and a Biblical coach.

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 13

  "... train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come. This is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance. That is why we labor and strive, because we have put our hope in the living God, who is the Savior of all people, and especially of those who believe. Command and teach these things"1 Timothy 4:7-11

         If I applied for Survivor and they asked me why I wanted to go on, I would probably say that I would like to lose 30 pounds and finally see if I have a 6 pack or not. Every pop up ad I get on YouTube has something to do with losing weight, abs, muscles or the like. They must be getting people to "bite" because the CAC (customer acquisition cost - see I am learning something on Shark Tank) must be tremendous. People love to post selfies from the gym and make us all jealous. But how much time goes into that?

        Then, there are the athletes that train countless hours to be the best at their sports, yet when we ask, who won last year's MVP award in any sport, we struggle to come up with a name. My wife and I love to watch American Idol yet can never remember a year later who won. What I'm saying is that the countless hours we are spending to be the best here on Earth don't amount to much in the long run.

       Paul is saying, why not focus your attention on the things that we will be celebrating a million years from now like your relationship with God, bringing people into the kingdom, crowns of righteousness and rewards in Heaven. The 12 disciples get their names written on the foundations of the walls in Heaven! Who knows, maybe with all the throngs in Heaven wanting to be in the presence of God, maybe there are front row seats available. Maybe just hearing Him say to us, "Well done!" will be a voice resounding in our heads through all eternity and that will be enough.

       My Dad would say, "Life is short, will soon be passed; only what's done for Christ will last." That's what Paul is saying here. It's not wrong to train if God has given you unique abilities and skills. Develop them and use them to glorify Him. Just keep it in perspective. If it is taking up so much time that you don't have time to grow in Christ, then it is out of whack. If you are getting more meaning in life from something physical than Someone spiritual, you are out of focus. If you are a believer, a true sign of faith is that you are living with eternity in mind.

 Each one of these people of faith died not yet having in hand what was promised, but still believing. How did they do it? They saw it way off in the distance, waved their greeting, and accepted the fact that they were transients in this world. People who live this way make it plain that they are looking for their true home. If they were homesick for the old country, they could have gone back any time they wanted. But they were after a far better country than that—heaven country. You can see why God is so proud of them, and has a City waiting for them.

                                                                                                              Hebrews 11:13-16 The Message

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 12

 The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer. If you point these things out to the brothers and sisters, you will be a good minister of Christ Jesus, nourished on the truths of the faith and of the good teaching that you have followed. Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; 1 Tim. 4:1-7

        Guess what day it is today? You're right, Thanksgiving! Odd how the passage I'm studying today mentions" thanksgiving" twice. Must have some significance. What does this passage say we are to be thankful for?

      I think we could summarize it in one word - freedom. In the garden of Eden, when things were just right, Adam and Eve had only one rule, everything else was OK. When sin came into the world, that all changed. Moses was given moral laws, civil laws, and ceremonial laws which took up half of Exodus, all of Leviticus, some of Numbers, along with a review course in Deuteronomy. Along with that, the Pharisees added hundreds more to safeguard the given laws so that no one might get close to breaking God's laws, which then became as important to the Jews as God's law. When Jesus came, He fulfilled the Law. He kept it for us and took on the punishment we deserved for not keeping it. He summarized it for us in two commands; Love God and Love your neighbor.

      Paul is warning Timothy and us that Satan will introduce fake religions that put rules back on us thus nullifying the death of Jesus because if we could get right with God by rules, Christ died for nothing. Aren't you thankful today that we can just bless the food today and not worry if it's Kosher or not and if we are sinning by eating anything on the table? Aren't you glad that if you discovered some mildew in your house, took out a dead mouse in a mouse trap, were on your period, or had a rash, you could still come eat with everyone? (Of course if you discovered gluten in the area that's another story) Aren't you thankful that you didn't have to kill a lamb this morning to atone for your family's sins?

       This thanksgiving let us be thankful that the Old Covenant has been fulfilled and made obsolete, and we are living under the New Covenant, the perfect law of freedom. Paul reminds us that we are not free to sin but to love. Let's show love to everyone around the table and love for God who made a way for us to be in His presence with those around us.

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 11

... the pillar and foundation of the truth. Beyond all question, the mystery from which true godliness springs is great:

He appeared in the flesh,
    was vindicated by the Spirit,
was seen by angels,
    was preached among the nations,
was believed on in the world,
    was taken up in glory. 1 Timothy 3:15-16

       I'm not a big fan of hymns. It probably stems from my Christian upbringing sitting in Churches where I would get dressed up in my best clothes and a tie, sit in a pew with my parents who would make sure I looked attentive, stand and sit at the proper proscribed moments, sing from a hymnbook, songs written by people named Fanny, and listen to a preacher for 35 minutes use words I didn't understand and preach about things I couldn't relate to. Now, as soon as I hear a hymn, I tune out because it reminds me of dead religion. Don't get me wrong, that church experience was deeply meaningful to my parents, just not to me. So when faith became my own, I wanted new expressions. I enjoyed singing songs TO my savior rather than ABOUT Him. To be perfectly honest, most hymns are theological truths put to tunes as if the Westminster Confession was "musicalized". 

                When I memorize scripture as an older person, I put it to music because it helps me remember it. I feel most hymns were meant to preserve the faith as Paul mentioned above, the Church was to be a pillar or stalwart of the truth. In the passage above, we see probably an early hymn the church sang which could be summarized like this;

        God became man, died for our sins, triumphed over death, was worshipped by angels and feared by demons, ascended into Heaven and this message was preached throughout the world and saved many.

         This was a great creed that the early church memorized by putting it to music. An early hymn. 

          Do we need creeds and hymns anymore? I'm not sure - we have the Bible. I'm not a fan of creeds because they are formed by a group of men telling us the proper way of interpreting scripture. Sounds sort of like The Watchtower Society to me. But the early Church did and with all the lies creeping in, it was essential that the church was taught to hold on to the essentials of the faith.

"As for you, the anointing you received from him remains in you, and you do not need anyone to teach you. But as his anointing teaches you about all things and as that anointing is real, not counterfeit—just as it has taught you, remain in him " 1John 2:27

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 10

 Those who have served well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in their faith in Christ Jesus. Although I hope to come to you soon, I am writing you these instructions so that, if I am delayed, you will know how people ought to conduct themselves in God’s household, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and foundation of the truth. 1 Timothy 3:13-15

            In this passage we get some ideas of what the Church should be. First of all, it's a household. It makes me think of a family. As Christians, the church is a place where the family gets together and does the "one anothers"

     POSITIVE COMMANDS Love one another (John 13:34 - This command occurs at least 16 times) Be devoted to one another (Romans 12:10) Honor one another above yourselves (Romans 12:10) Live in harmony with one another (Romans 12:16) Build up one another (Romans 14:19; 1 Thessalonians 5:11) Be likeminded towards one another (Romans 15:5) Accept one another (Romans 15:7) Admonish one another (Romans 15:14; Colossians 3:16) Greet one another (Romans 16:16) Care for one another (1 Corinthians 12:25) Serve one another (Galatians 5:13) Bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2) Forgive one another (Ephesians 4:2, 32; Colossians 3:13) Be patient with one another (Ephesians 4:2; Colossians 3:13) Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15, 25) Be kind and compassionate to one another (Ephesians 4:32) Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs (Ephesians 5:19) Submit to one another (Ephesians 5:21, 1 Peter 5:5) Consider others better than yourselves (Philippians 2:3) Look to the interests of one another (Philippians 2:4) Bear with one another (Colossians 3:13) Teach one another (Colossians 3:16) Comfort one another (1 Thessalonians 4:18) Encourage one another (1 Thessalonians 5:11) Exhort one another (Hebrews 3:13) Stir up [provoke, stimulate] one another to love and good works (Hebrews 10:24) Show hospitality to one another (1 Peter 4:9) Employ the gifts that God has given us for the benefit of one another (1 Peter 4:10) Clothe yourselves with humility towards one another (1 Peter 5:5) Pray for one another (James 5:16) Confess your faults to one another (James 5:16)

      NEGATIVE COMMANDS (how not to treat one another) Do not lie to one another (Colossians 3:9) Stop passing judgment on one another (Romans 14:13) If you keep on biting and devouring each other...you'll be destroyed by each other (Galatians 5:15) Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other (Galatians 5:26) Do not slander one another (James 4:11) Don't grumble against each other (James 5:9) 

       When Paul says, "Those who serve well get an excellent standing...", maybe he is referring to their role in the family of God. When my family gets together for Thanksgiving, I get to be the one that sits at the head of the table, blesses the food and the people, and oversees the day. The elders and deacons get to be in charge of the one anothering.

       Secondly, it's called "The church of the living God." In other words, the church is a place where God shows up. Do we go to church with the expectation of His presence? When we do corporate singing and prayer are we focusing in our minds that He is there and we are talking to Him, adoring Him, praising Him, magnifying Him, glorifying Him, or are our minds elsewhere? Are we honoring God with our lips but our hearts are far from Him? I think so many people focus on the preaching but the first part is like an intro or a prelude to the message. The church is half full when the singing starts and people trickle in during the worship. We should be there early in eager anticipation of the Living God being in our midst!

           Lastly, the church is "the pillar and foundation of the truth". In other words the Church is a place where we learn the truth. The elder who has shown himself to be in excellent standing has the privilege and responsibility of opening God's word, which is truth, and sharing its' depths. When we leave the church service, we should have been challenged by the truth that we are in the world but not of it and live accordingly. We should be convicted of how far we fall short of the Holiness of God yet with a growing appreciation of His grace and mercy and a stronger desire to please Him flowing from that not from guilt. And it should encourage us to privately grow in our relationship with God and not selfishly withhold the cure for all mankind.

           This is the purpose of the church from 1 Timothy 3. So vital! Are you in one?

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 9

  In the same way, deacons are to be worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain. They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience. They must first be tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let them serve as deacons. In the same way, the women are to be worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything. A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well. Those who have served well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in their faith in Christ Jesus.   1 Timothy 3:9-13

           Deacons, who according to Acts, carry on the mercy ministries in the church while elders do the preaching, praying, and discipling ministries, have very similar qualifications to elders. While there are so many directions to go with this passage, the one that jumps out at me is that Paul addresses alcohol in both. Is there a correlation between drinking alcohol and having a good marriage? How about raising Godly well behaved Children who honor you? 

          The Bible doesn't say that drinking alcohol is a sin and in both these passages the emphasis is on excessive drinking and drunkenness, just like temperance and self-control is emphasized. The question isn't is it wrong to drink, the question is, is it wise? Is it wise to have a wine cabinet in your house? Is it wise for you to have beer or coolers in your refrigerator? How do you present this to your kids? When your kids ask, "Daddy, what's in that can? Is it soda? Can I have some?" What's your answer? "No, not until you are older." "Why?", asks the child. How do you answer that? Having grown up in a family that didn't drink, I legitimately don't have an answer. The only answers I can come up with suggest "do as I say, not as I do". "This is OK for me but not for you". And then when they get old enough, aren't they going to want to try? Who knows if they will be able to control it like you can? When you want your kids to follow you in every way except this one thing, doesn't it scream hypocrisy? And let me assure you, kids pick up on every area of hypocrisy in parents' lives.

           Paul says in Romans 14 and 1Corinthians 8 that if there is a potential to make a young believer stumble in an area, he would gladly give it up for this blink of an eye called life on this earth, then assist in the damnation of a soul for all eternity. How much more for the children you brought into this world? Am I being a bit dramatic? Am I going too far? Maybe, but if it was me, I wouldn't drink in view of my children. I just don't think it's wise and anecdotally, I've seen the results.

Thoughts From 1 Timothy - Day 8

 Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.

                                                                                    1 Timothy 3:1-7

              "I don't care what anyone thinks of me. God is my judge and I live for an audience of one." Have you ever said that or the like? I know I have. I think I can even sing some songs that have those lyrics. On the surface it seems good and Biblical but yet, when you look at 1 Timothy 3, so much of spiritual maturity has to do what others think about you. Certainly my opening statement has some merit and can't be discarded. Paul said to the Corinthians in effect, "It doesn't matter what you think, my conscience is clear." Jesus said things like," all men will hate you because of me", and" woe unto you when all men speak well of you", and the prophets of old were hated to the point of being sawed in two and thrown in wells.

              I think of Daniel. When his adversaries - and when I say adversaries, I mean people who hated him due to jealousy and ambition - came against him to destroy him on a personal level, he was blameless. They could have run down the list of elder qualifications and it would have been like, "check, check, check, check, double check.... they found nothing except he was too in love with God. He was too obedient to God! Paul says in Romans, "As far as it is possible, live at peace with all men." Peter says, "Live such good lives among the pagans that though they accuse you of doing wrong, they will see your good deeds and glorify God." Jesus said, "Let your light so shine before men that they will see your good works and glorify your Father in Heaven." And the aforementioned Daniel said, "Those who are wise will shine like the brightness of heavens and lead many to righteousness."

           So I guess what I am saying is if you stand for truth and righteousness in society and preach that Jesus is the only way, you will offend people. It happened to John the Baptist who though he was imprisoned for speaking against adultery and incest, yet his accuser was grieved when his hand was forced to execute him. Felix, Festus, and Agrippa all agreed that Paul was blameless and didn't deserve imprisonment, and his only crime was that he was a Jesus freak. Like the qualifications for an elder, we should be above reproach, a faithful spouse, good father or mother, hard working, not greedy, respectable, not hot tempered and argumentative, but humble gentle and kind, and a good neighbor. If anyone has anything bad to say about you is that you are too in love with Jesus.

          Does that describe you?

Thoughts From 1Timothy - Day 7

 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner.  But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.   1 timothy 2:11-15

         There are a number of different passages in the Bible that deal with gender roles both in the family and in the Church. I leave out society because I don't think the Bible restricts roles in society. Any discussion on egalitarianism (everyone is equal in regard to roles) versus complementarianism (men and women are equal in worth but not in roles), to be intellectually and biblically honest must deal with these verses. My hero, Mike Winger from "Think Biblically" has recorded close to 40 hours on this topic, and to be perfectly honest, I tried but can't listen to it all, but the bottom line is that complementarianism is the proper interpretation of scripture.

       The first thing we see is that there was an order in creation. If you know anything about birth order especially as it correlates to first born and authority in scripture, the fact that he was first is a big deal. The Bible states woman was made for man as a help meet. My study of this leads me to picture something that's leaning and the help meet steadies it or rectifies it. In otherwards, man left to his own frailties will get off balance and needs a woman to stabilize him. Women are essential in the family and the Church to keep it on course. Their advice should not be ignored but it looks to me like it shouldn't be a flagrant public undermining of authority but a more behind the scenes advisory capacity in the family and church. This thinking is certainly contrary to modern sensibilities, but just the fact that sin entered the world through Adam when Eve was the one to do it, demonstrates an authority, headship, responsibility role of men. I believe that families and churches that violate this headship rule will be dysfunctional and anecdotally, I think it bears out.

       The second thing I see is the great gift God gave women, that He didn't give to men and that is to be able to bear children. If it was dependent on men, a savior couldn't have come and we'd be lost in our sin. Actually we wouldn't even be here because MANkind would have lasted one generation. It's interesting in our society that instead of this unique ability to have children being celebrated, it is rather a point of contention in the struggle for having the autonomy that men have. The argument might be that man has total freedom with his body while a woman can be told by the government that she has to carry a baby and therefore is not really free. This beautiful gift that God has given women, to have children and raise them in Godliness to keep the faith going into the next generation, has been turned into a battle for equality and a desire quite often to forfeit this gift.

        I understand that as a man, discussing women I have a ton of blindspots, but my conclusion is that the Bible and Christianity, and especially here with Paul and 1Timothy lifts up women. These passages tell us that without women, the family and church would be messed up and the whole human race along with our opportunity at salvation would be lost. I think Complementarianism has a tremendously high view of women.